Love Advice From Babe

Babe, how did you know Grandpa was “The One” I asked her.

She said, I knew he was the one by the way that he provided for me. He took care of me, that’s how I knew.

That’s how I knew he was the one.

I never need to ask he always knows what to do and what I need almost telepathically, no not materialistically and that’s the difference between a partner and a boyfriend… need more of an explanation, no problem I’ll be happy to explain.

Partnerships are an equal exchange of many sorts, yet most importantly they’re your biggest support. Uplifting you along the way, no cracks within the sidewalks, always available to wipe your tears, there with you to fight your fears, and most importantly loves you unconditionally, faithfully, and honestly. Relationships are work but more of a growth than an upkeep. He’s not perfect nor do I need him to be. At most he’s the best for me.

Thanks Babe, now I understand. I love that you had a chance to meet and spend sometime with him and I. Because of you, I know the meaning of love both self and towards loving others.

I miss you. I love you.

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Babe, my Queen.

He says I’m “too good” for him, what does that mean?

So… he tells you that you’re too good for him and you’re confused as to what that may mean? Oh it’s really simple what he means, he means, “I’m not 100% good with myself and I can see that you are and I don’t want to drag you down or hurt you because I will“, yeah that sums it up.

As young women, from personal experience, we always want to help these “men” recognize the good women that we are by being supportive, being there whenever needed, or even being sexually available for them because actions speak louder than words right? These guys will see how “down” we are or that we’re the “ride or die ” type right? WRONG, that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Men are pretty simple creatures. They don’t speak in code or in between lines and their actions will tell you how they feel about you… but wait.. didn’t you just read that actions don’t speak louder than words? Yes, but think about it if he  already told you what type of individual he really is, then is it really confusing as to why he won’t reciprocate or make a commitment to you?

Hurt people, hurt people. Take note and always remember this. Yes the vicious cycle continues until awareness is gained and then the real work can be done. What work you might ask, internal work. In order to love others, one must love them selves first. Another thing to think about when being hung up on someone who isn’t for our best interest is if it ever gets to the point where it’s ever confusing, it’s wrong. Dating shouldn’t be difficult if if is then wave and say Sayonara. Really it’s ok! Dating should be about spending time and getting to know another who is equally as interested and invested in getting to know you too! Masquerades can only disguise a face for so long after awhile the face will become too itchy and the skin will need to breathe, unleashing the REAL person underneath.

But let’s get down to the real reason why we find ourselves in these types of situations… if we keep attracting guys like this then it’s pretty obvious there’s something that they’re aiming to teach us. Think about it… in school if we don’t learn what we need to in each grade we don’t graduate to the next, why can’t it be the same for life? So if you find yourself in a situation like this where your relationship isn’t balanced whether it involve cheating, lying, abuse, or etc, think about what it is that they are trying to teach you about yourself, maybe then you will be able to understand “its” purpose in your life….

Learn and be happy above all else!!!

Amber Choisella