He says I’m “too good” for him, what does that mean?

So… he tells you that you’re too good for him and you’re confused as to what that may mean? Oh it’s really simple what he means, he means, “I’m not 100% good with myself and I can see that you are and I don’t want to drag you down or hurt you because I will“, yeah that sums it up.

As young women, from personal experience, we always want to help these “men” recognize the good women that we are by being supportive, being there whenever needed, or even being sexually available for them because actions speak louder than words right? These guys will see how “down” we are or that we’re the “ride or die ” type right? WRONG, that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Men are pretty simple creatures. They don’t speak in code or in between lines and their actions will tell you how they feel about you… but wait.. didn’t you just read that actions don’t speak louder than words? Yes, but think about it if he  already told you what type of individual he really is, then is it really confusing as to why he won’t reciprocate or make a commitment to you?

Hurt people, hurt people. Take note and always remember this. Yes the vicious cycle continues until awareness is gained and then the real work can be done. What work you might ask, internal work. In order to love others, one must love them selves first. Another thing to think about when being hung up on someone who isn’t for our best interest is if it ever gets to the point where it’s ever confusing, it’s wrong. Dating shouldn’t be difficult if if is then wave and say Sayonara. Really it’s ok! Dating should be about spending time and getting to know another who is equally as interested and invested in getting to know you too! Masquerades can only disguise a face for so long after awhile the face will become too itchy and the skin will need to breathe, unleashing the REAL person underneath.

But let’s get down to the real reason why we find ourselves in these types of situations… if we keep attracting guys like this then it’s pretty obvious there’s something that they’re aiming to teach us. Think about it… in school if we don’t learn what we need to in each grade we don’t graduate to the next, why can’t it be the same for life? So if you find yourself in a situation like this where your relationship isn’t balanced whether it involve cheating, lying, abuse, or etc, think about what it is that they are trying to teach you about yourself, maybe then you will be able to understand “its” purpose in your life….

Learn and be happy above all else!!!

Amber Choisella

 

Nothing I Forgot To Say..

I was inspired by another blogger to write about you.

So much of you is everything I’ve ever wanted

to see

you know, to really perceive,

and be part of my reality. You are…

 

Words that fade when I reach to say how I feel about…

 

You are galaxies, not a fallacy of my  many dreams

Bright like our star, you create a greater aura therefore

it is my best that I owe ya.

 

You are my favorite above the rest.

 

You are Love.

Dating: The Balance Between Good and “Evil”

I am on the verge of turning 27 years wiser and I want to share what I’ve recently learned with everyone who is currently within the dating realm. People will show you and tell you who they are, it just depends on whether we either become blind to it or accept it.

 

I have finally learned this lesson. There has to be a balance of good and “evil” in order for humanity to learn from itself. People enter our lives for the purpose of enhancing our growth no matter the degree of hurt they may present us. We can either build upon it or dwell within it.

 

People will reveal who they are when we meet them. Trust them when they tell you who they are and pay attention to how they portray themselves as well. We often turn a blind eye to certain signs and characteristics, that is what hurts us in the end. It’s the expectation of what we want, not the reality in which it is presented.

 

Dating is a difficult community to be a part of when you think you know what you want and how you think it will look. I had to release all my major expectations and in doing so I was able to attract what I need, not what I want in a partner. I guess what I’m aiming to say is, listen, observe, and accept what is presented. From that point on you have control, never lose sight of your own control. Control over your feelings most importantly, because dating is hard. Just know exactly what you need from a partner and release all your expectations; only then will you come across your King/Queen.